Friday, 15 April 2011

Becoming Confident - Part Two



Thank you so, so much for all your super lovely comments on the last post :) You're all so sweet, the blogging community really is fantastic! It's so nice to know a lot of you feel the same way and we aren't alone!

Okay, so an update! Today was the little trip by myself, and I also had to go to doctors and hand in some registration forms for my poorly other half, and ask questions etc. I am one of these people who like to know everything before hand if I haven't been before. I like to Google map everywhere I go if I haven't driven there before because I don't like driving new places. I like to know exactly whats going to happen when I go someplace new (maybe why I like going with someone else, so I'm not on my own if something goes wrong!); things like, what should I say, where do I go? That's why I like to ask people who have been before what I have to do. But today I just had to do it myself, and the same with the Apple store. B&Q was fine, I mean I didn't have to actually engage/talk to people! Haha I sound like a recluse! But some of the comments really helped me yesterday. It does help if you plan what you're going to say in your head, and even if things don't happen the exact way you planned out in your mind, you have the basic gist of it so you're not in the deep end and you don't look silly!
I think, with more successful, independent trips like this I will be on the way to becoming confident. Obviously, it's not a quick fix thing, and it will happen gradually but I think little outings like this when I have no choice other than doing things on my own, will be really good in the long run.

 
Here's some little steps for you guys, rounded up from your lovely comments and my thoughts too :)

1 - Plan what you're going to say before hand.
2 - Keep your head up and don't let the world know you are nervous (AKA, fake it)
3 - Look people in the eye. Smile. Take deep breaths and stay calm.
4 - Just do it. Break out of your comfort zone. Things aren't going to be as bad as you think, and once you're done, you can feel pleased as punch that you didn't scarper and you actually did it :)
5 - Practice makes perfect. Obviously, like I said before, becoming confident will take time. But like today, after I managed the doctors by myself, it made me more confident that I could do the Apple shop too.
6 - People aren't going to bite your head off. In general, people are very nice and they won't know that you're nervous or your stomach is doing back flips. They will treat you like everyone else, and generally be pretty friendly, which definitely helps to calm nerves.
7 - In relation to 2&3 it is much easier to do this if you feel confident about yourself. Wear something that makes you feel good. Pop that bit of makeup on if it makes you feel pretty. I know that if you feel good about how you look, it greatly affects how you convey yourself to others too.


I'll pop little tips under each of these 'Becoming Confident' posts as I continue to learn on my little journey, and hope they will help you too. I'll pop back with another Becoming Confident post when I reach my next hurdle :) Once again, thank you girls for your amazing support. Love, Katie xoxo

5 comments

  1. I always practice what I'm going to say before arriving, such a good idea! Thanks for the rest of the tips, you're doing so well!

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  2. I thought I was the only one who would practice what they were going to say in advance! So pleased it's not just me. Love these posts, and your blog xxx

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  3. When I think about what I'm going to say I tend to stumble over my words more than I usually do! I find just faking it works and I've faked it for so long it does start to feel like real confidence, except in big groups of people, then I fail.

    Good luck with it though :) It's tough but keep at it. x

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  4. I'm really glad it worked for you and you found it a bit easier to go to those places today! It will take time but it sounds like it's already going well :) xx

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  5. I love how honest you are! I always plan in my head what I am going to say too :) x

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