Thursday, 10 January 2013

Wanderlust



I've read a few blog posts this month that have really meant something to me. Rosie from A Rosie Outlook blogged about her thoughts on living. I feel like we're brought up in a society in which it's all set out for us. Get a job, get a house, get married, have children, retire. Take holidays and have days off, but basically live out a 9-5 and follow society's norms. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, but as Rosie said, I'm not sure that's living.

Only recently have I had a case of wanderlust. I've always liked the idea of growing up with the set plan of getting a job and getting married and settling down. But recently I've wanted to do more. I want to travel the world. I spoke about this on Twitter, and how I'd never had the urge to go places before. I'm a bit of a scaredy cat really. If I don't know a place, or a route to drive, I get nervous and worried. But I want an adventure. Graham wants to cycle around Europe, and I can imagine cycling around and  resting wherever we can, at hostels, in tents or whatever, and eating the local cuisine and making friends with the locals. I'd ride round on a red pashley and buy baked goods from the bakers and travel from country to country. Or, take a plane to New Zealand and hike and photograph all day, eat good food and live the life of luxury. I think that it's such a waste not to travel and visit different places when we have the means to. To think we can hop on a plane and go anywhere in the world blows my mind. I'd love to visit Japan, America, Australia. Like I said, I've never wanted to before. So I feel like I've got a new found freedom in realising this and the thought of being able to do it sounds perfect. The problem is the ties. We get tied down with jobs, children, family or money. I want to travel before I get any real responsibility but I've got a job and Grahams got a job, and we don't have the money. But doesn't it sound amazing, to just travel the world and live out a backpack? Sadly, I wonder if this is just a case of wanderlust, and the dream won't ever come true. It certainly sounds like a fairtytale, meeting strangers and living in different countries. I read articles about people who couchsurf all over the world and I just can't imagine leaving and taking that leap of faith.

That brings me on to the other post I read, on Victoria's blog, Lily Loves Lola. I could really relate to what she was saying. Like I said earlier, I'm a scaredy cat. I don't do things on my own, I am much more comfortable doing new things, like taking a yoga class, with a friend but there is no way I can imagine doing it by myself. I like my own company and I'm often found alone, but doing new things without support? No way! I don't know if it's because I like to have back up? If something goes wrong, we can laugh together? I just don't have the confidence to do it by myself, as much as I'd like to. It always comes down to that confidence thing, doesn't it? I've written so many times on my blog that I wish I could improve it. Buying a plane ticket to go somewhere completely new by yourself is an extreme, but maybe that's the ultimate goal? To be able to do something like that and shock everyone but be happy? I can't even go to the cinema alone, eat out or try something new. I'd like to though. Maybe I'll start small and go from there. I'm not saying I'll ever get to the point where I'm heading out the country by myself to somewhere I don't know, but even a small step towards that is good.

Perhaps the ultimate dream, for me, is to be able to do something by myself, with no backup or safety net, and be completely unafraid. I think thats my biggest goal. What's yours?

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  1. You can definitely do this! Keep us updated on what you get up too lovely lady! xxxxx

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  2. Thanks for mentioning me. I love Rosie's blog! She is very wise indeed.

    I recently gave up the 9-5 thing to become happier and get back to my old self. It has given me the chance to do things I really want to do, and to think about the kind of career I want.

    Life is so short when you think about it! x

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    1. Oh, well done! That's so brave, I hope you are happier and figure things out. It is, which makes me feeling scared seem even silly! xx

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  3. You can do anything you desire, that's the beauty of life!
    I recently took a huge plunge, I left a three year relationship, left the home we shared together and moved cities, back in with my parents all so I could save money to travel the world. It's taking longer than I'd hoped (damned Zara sale!) and I miss my friends terribly, but I know it will all be worth it when I am in sunnier climes eating delicious food and gazing from trains.
    If something doesn't scare you, in my experience, it's not worth doing. I've had CBT for anxiety issues and facing up to my nerves and kicking them in the booty was the best thing I ever did!
    Good luck, be brave and keep dreaming about that bicycle! xxx

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    1. Wow! Kate that's amazing, good on you! You will get there, it definitely will be worth it! Good on you for facing your fear, it's a lovely thing to read :) I will do! Thanks for your lovely comment xxx

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  4. I lack so much confidence in myself - and always have done, it's something one day I deeply wish to resolve. I think that would truly make me happy, knowing that there was no inch of doubt in my mind about the choices I make.
    I can really relate to Rosie's post too, lately more than ever my partner and I have been talking about what we want from life - we are due to marry next year, but we certainly do not crave a family for some time yet. I am so selfish, but I really do feel like I want our time, for adventures and romance xxx

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    1. I don't think it's selfish Alice, not at all! It's completely understandable, and why not have some fun and make the most of the freedom you have before you are tied down xxx

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  5. i am very happy to let others do the 'difficult' things in life, i used to let my boyfriend phone for taxis for me, and little things like asking someone in a shop something would be very difficult for me.
    i made a decision this year to be better at being confident and actually doing things for myself rather than palming them off!
    Rosie xo
    A Pocketful of Rosie

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    1. Oh I was exactly the same Rosie! Just like you, with the examples you said; I got people to phone up places for me and ask for prices, answering the door and things like that. Good luck with becoming confident, I'm sure we'll both improve loads and go far :) xxx

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  6. I wish I could do something by myself, nothing to fall back on... But I'm not that daring, and I get scared easily! I wish I was less stressed out with life, and just live it!
    Take each day as it comes, but most importantly enjoy myself, and see where it'll take me...!
    x x x

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    1. Exactly! I stress far too much and I hate it. But hopefully we'll begin to let go and enjoy ourselves :) xxx

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  7. I also read Rosie's and Victoria's posts and enjoyed reading yours too!

    I can identify with the things you've all mentioned and also some of the things in the comments. I don't know what changed but I can happily (though not always comfortably) eat out on my own or go into a pub alone etc. I wasn't always like this though and it's only come with age!! Maybe not the answer you were seeking but as I've got older I kind of... how can I put it... give less of a shit what other people think!

    Start small Katie, don't do things that make you too uncomfortable to begin with and get confident in one area before moving on to the next. You can do it! Enjoy life :) xxxx

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  8. I can definitely say exactly the same thoughts wander through my mind on a daily basis. I definitely lack the confidence to do other things without support, I've got better in recent years at uni, being able to wander off to places where I need to get jobs done, but then tiny things like meeting someone somewhere can knock me and I'll want the support of another person to come with me just so I know I won't be left standing there for ages alone.

    And the wanderlust thing I get too! I'm scared that after uni the 9-5 will just be me, forever! I have a friend who travelled when he was 18, hitch-hiked his way around Europe, couch-surfed and did a little work on farms to earn some food. It definitely sounds amazing but I'd never have the confidence to go and do it! Some of the situation he got himself into sounded mental so I don't know how I'd cope.

    I guess we just gotta make the most of what we do have. If we can't afford to go travelling miles around the world then explore the area around us in the free time we have. I'm trying this year to work hard in set times so that I can do things I love when I get free time, and I'm hoping this will work out well! (: Good luck! xxx

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  9. I totally agree with what you've said! I spent a year living in Germany as part of my university course and ever since then I've felt trapped and uncomfortable being stuck back in the UK and tied down to work. Sometimes I feel like it's driving me crazy! I'd love to spend the rest of my life travelling around, settling in a country for a few months before moving on to the next, but even planning a mini break is difficult when you're restricted by time and money :(

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  10. Until August 2010 I had been living my whole life in my country of birth, The Philippines. Sure, I traveled within my country and five times to Singapore but I´ve always been fascinated by other countries and cultures. I think it started when I saw all the little flags that my grandparents have on their bedroom wall -- flags of all the countries that they´ve been too. I wanted to hear all the stories and look at the photos.

    Sadly, but not anyone´s fault but mine, I didn´t prioritize traveling in my life until I met my bf now who apart from being well-traveled told me about all his adventures and filled my head with the ones we were going to have together. So, I took the leap and moved to Madrid, Spain in 2010 and I cannot put into words how amazing it has been. We have since traveled to most cities of Spain and been to Portugal, Italy, France, Monaco, and Switzerland.

    I am definitely ready for more! We aren´t made of money but we save to travel and every chance we get, we take a trip :)

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